Forgiveness as Front Page News

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz (Photo credit: Nutmeg Designs)

I started this blog to act as a vehicle for promoting the positive.  One aspect of promoting the positive that I mentioned in my first blog post was promoting positive news coverage and I admit that I have not done a lot of that.  So when I happily saw a positive news article promoting the act of forgiveness on Monday, January 28 I immediately felt the urge to blog about it.

The article I refer to is titled, “Forgiving others is a gift to yourself“, and it appeared on the FRONT PAGE of the Charlotte Observer on Monday, January 28.  It details a talk that Dr. Ned Hallowell (psychiatrist and best-selling author) gave to Charlotte’s Christ Episcopal Church the day before.  How exciting that an article on the topic of forgiveness appeared on the front page of a newspaper!!

The basis of the article is a list of Hallowell’s 10 tips to understanding and acting on forgiveness.  I am not going to detail all of them as they can be read in detail by accessing the article online, but I will list two key points that he made.

“Forgiveness is fundamentally a gift you give to yourself.  Because your clearing your system of  poison – anger and resentment.”

“Forgiveness is not a moment.  It’s a process that has to be renewed over and over again.”

Sunrise as seen from Hampton Inn and Suites Beachfront Hotel, Myrtle Beach, SC

December Sunrise, Myrtle Beach, SC

It is nice to see a topic like forgiveness get front page billing.  I have my personal stories of forgiveness that I will share someday on this blog and elsewhere, but for now I just want to celebrate the fact that Ned Hallowell’s talk on forgiveness made front page news in the Charlotte Observer.  It is nice to see.  I think this article is a ray of light.  If an article on forgiveness can make front page news then maybe we can build on that.  Maybe each of us that read this article can start practicing some of the forgiveness concepts that are listed, and from there maybe the practice of forgiveness that we each individually create can transcend our personal experiences in a way that forgiveness becomes a practice between groups of people – people in relationships, families, political parties, religions, countries, etc.  I have hope that this can happen.  That over time we can all learn to forgive in a way that allows us to put past indiscretions in the past where they belong so that we can each allow those indiscretions to no longer define us and from there we all grow.

I close with a few other thought-provoking quotes on forgiveness.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” – Paul Boese

“Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” – Louis B. Smedes

“Those who injured us only did what they knew how to do, given the conditions of their lives. If you won’t forgive, then you allow those ancient injuries to continue their hold on you.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Forgiveness can be a challenge but ultimately I believe it is necessary in order to move forward and grow.  We all have stories of forgiveness.  As Dr. Halloway says, forgiveness is a process that must be renewed.  Sharing stories of forgiveness is a way to renew that forgiveness process.  Please feel free to share your forgiveness story by leaving a comment!

With Peace and Gratitude,


About Steve Strother

I am a student of life and therefore I am a lifelong learner. I believe we are all here to evolve spiritually and doing so, and helping others do so, is my ultimate quest. I currently write at The Road to Peace about people helping other people because I believe helping others is a path to peace and also spiritual growth. I am currently developing a coaching program to help men connect to joy in life - specifically through understanding the the characteristics they exhibit (and can access) through the four main masculine archetypes as well as through helping them connect more authentically to the feminine - both within themselves, in the world around them, and with women.
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6 Responses to Forgiveness as Front Page News

  1. diggingher says:

    Hi Steve–If the press spent more time giving coverage to stories such as the one you mention the world we be a better place, truly. I believe the media mountain holds us captive to the fear and chaos in the world rather than the joy and peace.
    One of my favorite and often quoted scriptures from the book of Hebrews is, do not let a bitter root grow up in your heart. Forgiveness is absolutely a gift we give to ourselves. It frees us from encumbrances and allows us to move freely in life. Thanks for sharing the positivity.

    • Thank you Paige! I agree with you re: the current state of the media in today’s world and that is a big reason why I started this blog – to create a place where joy, peace, and other positive things can be shared. Thank you for sharing the Hebrews scripture quote as well. I like it!

  2. Very nice post on forgiveness, Steve ~ yes, it is wonderful to see a newspaper such as the Charlotte Observer giving such space to this topic. I am linking your post to my post today. Thanks! tomas

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